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Being a parent comes with its share of challenges, and when your child faces anxiety, it can be a tough road to navigate. Let's explore some simple yet effective strategies to support your little one on his or her journey to peace. First things first, let's demystify anxiety. Imagine your child is like a delicate plant; anxiety is like the rain—it comes and goes. Acknowledging and understanding this emotion is the first step. What is your role? You're the sunshine. Reassure your child that you're there for them, no matter what. Be a listener, not a fixer. Sometimes, just talking about worries can be a powerful remedy. Create a safe space for conversation. Start with simple questions like, "How was your day?" or "Is there anything on your mind?" Make it a routine, like planting seeds of trust that will grow over time. Help your child recognize when anxiety creeps in. Offer examples like: “feeling jittery before a test?” or “nervous about meeting new friends?” Knowing that others experience similar emotions can be comforting. Tips for helping your child 1. Worry Jar: Have a "worry jar" at home. Encourage your child to write or draw their worries and place them in the jar. This visual representation helps externalize anxieties. 2. Deep Breaths with a Twist: Teach a simple breathing exercise. Use a pinwheel or blow bubbles together while taking slow, deep breaths. It turns relaxation into a fun and shared activity. 3. Gratitude Journal: Each day, jot down one thing you're grateful for. Share this practice with your child to focus on positive moments, creating a more optimistic mindset. 4. Create a "Bravery Box": Fill a box with items that bring comfort—a favorite toy, a soft blanket, or a handwritten note from you. When anxiety strikes, the bravery box becomes a tangible source of comfort. Parenting a child facing anxiety is challenging! It is crucial to remember that understanding, reassurance, and practical tools make a big difference. By acknowledging anxiety as a normal aspect of life, parents can provide the steady support needed to help their child grow and overcome anxiety.
Many people worry about the future. Financial security and health are top concerns along with fear of divorce. There's no denying that this is a frightening time for couples. More than half of all first marriages end in divorce; 60 percent of second marriages fail. There is no way to avoid conflict in our marriages. It is what we do when trouble comes that determines the outcome positively or negatively. I believe that most people want a positive outcome. So what makes marriage work? I wish I had that answer. I do know that it takes honesty, awareness, determination, forgiveness, wisdom, faith, perseverance, and more forgiveness, and that is just the start! George Bernard Shaw said: "Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open." Doug Larson on marriage is quoted as: "More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse." Conflict is growth trying to happen. It can lead you to a better relationship – if are aware of it and know how to work with it. Let’s take a look at some red flags that may crop up and indicate trouble in the marriage that needs to be addressed. Awareness of these crisis points allows making positive changes for the benefit of the marriage relationship. Marriage Red Flags One spouse cares more about keeping the kids happy than keeping his/her spouse happy Conversations only revolve around the kids One spouse expects to get his or her way almost all the time One spouse makes public jokes at the other spouse's expense. One spouse takes the other for granted One spouse is not interested in spiritual growth One spouse is not interested in meeting the other’s sexual needs One spouse is excessively jealous or controlling One spouse tries to manipulate the other with guilt or threats One spouse is addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling, or pornography HOW DO WE COMPARE? John Gottman suggests an exercise for married couples in his article in Psychology Today: "What makes marriage work? It's how you resolve conflict that matters most," published in March 1994. This exercise gives you a chance to see the strengths of your marriage by comparing yourselves to other couples in your lives. 1. Each of you jot down the names of four different couples you both know. Two should be examples of "bad" marriages; and two of "good" marriages. 2. Now share the names and tell why you feel the good marriages work and the bad marriages don't. Perhaps you admire how one couple is raising their children, or you disapprove of the way another couple berates one another in front of the company? 3. Talk about your marriage and how it relates to these good and bad marriages. Compare the way you and your spouse manage to get through difficult times with the way each of these couples handles their challenges. Can you identify behaviors you want to avoid? Are there things you'd like to emulate? 4. Talk about your ability as a couple to overcome hardship. Have you weathered episodes or incidents of which you're particularly proud? If so, how did you do it?
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